While it can be exhilarating to have a brief passionate lovemaking session before work every now and then, couples generally like being able to spend more time being intimate with each other. That can be difficult if one person is usually finished well before the other is even getting started to being aroused. Lasting longer in bed is something many men want to do for their partners. Dr Faysal Yafi offers some proven tips that can help extend your time in the bedroom
1. Work on Cardio
Being in good cardiovascular shape is beneficial in so many ways. These benefits include the bedroom, since it will improve one’s stamina while they are engaged in sex. This will allow them to raise their heart rate for much longer periods of time, improve their stamina, and not be left as a wheezing mess afraid that they are about to pass out. People who have not done cardio in a while should get the OK from their doctor before starting a program.
2. Use Thicker Condoms
The thicker the condom, the less sensation one feels while they are thrusting. That will keep them from being overwhelmed by the sensations and then possibly ejaculating much sooner than they would like.
3. Extend Your Foreplay
This can help both parties, since it can make them feel even more aroused and intimate. The longer the foreplay, especially when it’s between a man and a woman, the chances of her achieving an orgasm are much better. According to Dr. Yafi, having a foreplay session last as long as 20 minutes can improve the odds of her climaxing be as high as 60% — those would be excellent odds for those who like to gamble.
4. Do Yoga or Breathing Exercises
People do yoga for a variety of reasons, including improved mental health and also better physical fitness. Doing this can involve a lot of stretching along with breathing exercises, so it can be used to slow down people’s heart rates. This is perfect when an intimate session is initially begun. It can help the man prevent himself from getting too excited too early and then finishing well before he wanted to.
5. Try Edging
This might seem like a confusing term for those who aren’t familiar with it. It doesn’t mean rubbing one’s genitals against the edge of something. Instead, it means having sex, getting close to ejaculation and then stopping everything. Naturally, this should be talked about beforehand, because it could lead to a partner being upset and confused. They might think about something that’s not pleasant — like an unpopular politician being nude. They can resume after a bit and have the intercourse last longer.
6. Have Strong Kegel Muscles
Both men and women have these muscles that they use to stop the flow of pee. Men can use it to keep the ejaculation at bay and women can use their muscles to grab their partner’s member when it’s inside them. It can lead to very pleasurable times for both people involved. Strengthening these muscles is easy — they can pretend to stop their urine flow by clenching those muscles and holding them for 30 seconds at a time. Best of all, if they do it while waiting in line at a store and no one will be the wiser.
7. Try Different Positions
There are several positions that can help men delay ejaculation. They include the missionary, cowgirl, or him sitting on a chair and her sitting on him facing away. All of these will let him control the tempo and also allow him to focus on things like breathing. As a result, the couple will be able to spend more time being intimate.
8. Avoid Anxiety
This one is easier said than done. There can be a good number of stressors, and not all of them are within one’s control. The pressure can be directed inward, too. A man might get so nervous about possibly underperforming that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. As a result, this can create a cycle, especially if his partner gets frustrated, where he doesn’t even want to initiate any intimate encounters. This can lead to an unhappy relationship or even marriage. Seeing a therapist might even be a good idea if it’s gotten that bad.
9. Masturbate Before Sex
Doing this can help the man relax before starting to become intimate. It can reduce the worries that may have been plaguing him beforehand. The only bit of caution is that this depends on the age. It can be more difficult for a man to bounce back after ejaculating as they get older. So, they would have to take that into account before initiating anything. Otherwise, it could lead to another frustrating session.
10. Use Toys
There are plenty of toys that can pleasure her while he gets warmed up. Then, once she’s lubricated, he can join in and both of them can have a great time. This way, she can have fun too and not feel left out of anything.
These are just a few of the things that people can do to extend their time in bed. Other suggestions include pinching the tip of the penis, using delay sprays, taking prescription medication (prescribed by their own doctor), and even trying benzocaine wipes. There is no set way that will work for every single couple, so it’s best for them to experiment until they find something that they are comfortable. Then it’s time for them to enjoy themselves for as long as possible.